September 11, 2016 9:16 AM
I get “Do Enlightened People Have Sex?” emails at least once a month, usually from guys worried they’ll lose all desire once they step though the Gateless Gate.
From a comment on the last blog post:
Do you experience sexual desire?
Do you experience penile erections in the morning during waking up?
Do you experience wet dreams and nocturnal emissions?if yes, how often?
Do you masturbate? if yes, How often?
Do you experience erections or slight erections when thinking about women sexually?
Do you have sexual thoughts?
OR since your Enlightenment
You have gone physically and mentally sterile and impotent?
I am sorry to be so vulgar, but spiritual teachers dance around questions of utmost importance and are so opaque about what’s on going on in their heads..You are the first one perhaps in the history of the Internet who is so approachable
After Enlightenment, do you see the whole Universe in front of you? All the stars and galaxies?
After Enlightenment, do you see in front of you or know all the discovered and undiscovered equations, mathematics and theories that define Reality?
A little more detailed that I care to go into but, on September 4, I responded to a similar email. Here is my public and 100% safe for work response:
I once asked Eckhart Tolle’s then girlfriend (now wife) if they had sex. She got embarrassed and avoided answering the question. I too wondered, can someone as desireless as Tolle even have sex? Does enlightenment mean we must forsake it?
As long as you have a body, you’ll want sex. You are not the body, but the body is your vehicle. The body has needs and desires—food, sex, comfort, cleanliness. Once you stop identifying with these desires, they are no longer a problem. They are just other. My body has desires and I satisfy them as fits the situation. No biggie. My body isn’t me. It is just my vehicle for navigating this wonderful, manifest world.
It is a blessing to be born into a human body. Enjoy it, but don’t identify with it. With this attitude, you’ll feel a lot more free.
I was originally going to call this post Sex and the Siddhis but I’d be mixing my TV show metaphors (Roslyn, WA is where Northern Exposure was filmed). I’ll cover the siddhis (paranormal experiences and powers) alluded to in the original comment in a future post.
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