September 14, 2016 8:28 AM
My definition of real is,
If it requires my brain to exist, then it isn’t real. Conversely, if it can exist without my brain, then it is real.
Memories are not real.
From the book in progress (Inner Ego):
For painful memories—memories with strong emotions attached to them—I find it useful to think of them like dreams. While dreaming, we take the dream very seriously, but upon awakening, the dream stops feeling personal. It seems like other. When I revisit painful memories, I find it helps take the edge off them if I look at the memory as an old dream. A dream based on real-life characters. I know it wasn’t a dream, but it helps make it feel like a dream. The memory is a “dream of the Wayne that was,” not the here and now life of Wayne that is.
It helps if I look at something real (a tree, a table, etc.) while recalling the painful memory (dream). “This is real (tree, table, chair), this (painful memory) is not.”
Sounds like I’m crazy right? “This is real. This isn’t real. Is this reality or is it all just in my head?” Sounds like I’m kidding, like I’m making a joke.
The scary part is I’m not kidding. I’m not kidding at all. We’ve all known people who have suffered from painful memories. Suffered from the equivalent of a bad dream. Suffered from nothing more (now) than just some noise in their head.
The most miserable outcast hugs some memory or some illusion.
— Joseph Conrad
EDIT: Bob M made a very good point below that soul’s have memory (no brain). So let me revise my definition a little bit:
If it requires UNDERSTANDING to exist, then it isn’t real.
Better in a lot of ways. Thanks Bob!
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